Blessings
Seen sistren, I give thanks for the opportunity to reason with an Elder Rasta Sistren such as the I. I know that the road I'm travelling you have already tread upon, so there is much more that you've probably seen than have I. I can feel that you have a heart of Love for Wombmankind and for the youth.
If we are listing our personal views, let me first just answer your question and say that no I have not visited any battered women's shelters. If we are listing personal views, I can say that I don't have to. I know what a battered woman looks like. Got plenty of friends who been there (and I have a mirror

). So I am not ignorant of the plight of wombman's suffering. But just as I have sistren, I have bredren. Just as I have neices, I have nephews. Certainly InI must help the sistren who are abused and beat down. I guess I just feel that if in so doing we make no attempt to remember the bredren, then we are still imbalanced.
In terms of women being left holding the bag, no good or bad deed happens without reaction. The Iniverse is giving us what we give. Whilst the wombman is most certainly left with children to raise, I do believe that there are a lot of old men with a lot of regrets for not doing what they were supposed to. (I personally know some.)
Sistren you and I are seeing eye to eye. Iron sharpens iron, and I am thankful for the sharpening from the I.
Be blessed